Tips

It should be this way!

1. Always tell "I love you", most sweetest way if your telling it out of the blue.
2. Appreciate their personality, every good about them.
3. Always make them feel they are most beautiful/handsome in your eyes.
4. Understand their tantrums, they just want you.
5. Show your caring and thoughtfulness.
6. Be the first one who made for reconciliations.
7. Accept what they really are.
8. Be the reason to change their bad attitude.
9. Be the first person who believe for their changes.
10. Don't be a fault finder.

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Why Do We Fall in Love?

by Professor Arthur Aron

Falling in love is a magical experience that happens between two people. So why do people fall in love? Professor Arthur Aron from State University of New York at Stonybrook has been exploring the dynamics of what happens when two people are falling in love:

Q:  What motivates people to seek out love?

A:  Our primary motivation as human beings is to expand the self and to increase our abilities and our effectiveness. One of the ways we accomplish this is through our relationships with other people. We have learned in our research that it is important to feel that you have the ability to be an effective person, especially in our relationships.

Q:  How does this theory of self-expansion explain the process of falling in love?

A:  Usually, we fall in love with a person that we find attractive and appropriate for us, but also someone who demonstrates that they are attracted to us. This creates a situation where a great opportunity is open to us for self-expansion. The fact that they are attracted to us offers a significant opportunity — when we perceive this, we feel a surge of exhilaration!

Q:  Does it always work this way?

A:  No, an interesting exception to this occurs if we feel badly about ourselves. The process gets thrown off if we can't believe that another persons finds us attractive — like the Groucho Marx joke where we don't want to belong to a club that would have us for a member. We tend to miss out on opportunities for falling in love if we don't feel good about ourselves.

Q:  What conditions are best for meeting someone and falling in love?

A:  When you meet someone under conditions that are highly arousing — a political demonstration, turbulence on a plane, a stimulating performance — a time when the body is stirred up and excited, we tend to experience attraction at a heightened level. This effect is well documented but the explanations for it are very controversial. I tend to believe that we come to associate the arousal of the situation with this person and our own self-expansion.

Q:  When do we fall in love?

A:  Contrary to what most people think, the statistics show that most people fall in love with someone that they have known for a while. People only report falling in love quickly about 1/3 to 40 percent of the time. Of course, this varies from culture to culture. Falling in love happens differently between cultures but it does occur in most cultures.

Q:  How does our appearance factor into the equation of falling in love?

A:  This is interesting; we have found that if you are very unattractive, it can hurt you a lot in forming romantic relationships. However, being attractive doesn't help that much.

Q:  How do you explain that?

A:  We have found that two important characteristics, kindness and intelligence, are extremely important in the process of falling in love. And attractiveness is not connected to these things. These two attributes are things that people learn about someone from knowing them over time. Intelligence is important in all aspects of life, especially in love. But kindness is the strongest indicator for a successful long-term relationship.

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How To Be The Good Girlfriend

1: Be real honest: Whereas self honest to you are helper, it is equally vital that you be honest to yourself and yes, in a grown-up relationship, honesty is the most excellent policy, as long as you are important other too is honest to himself and we all know it is pretty difficult to expect from anyone.


2: Have a optimistic attitude: If all you say about him is a censure or an attack, he will not look onward to seeing you remember people don't want you to be honest with their inadequacy's. It is a improved plan in mature relationships. Be unprompted, but be careful in your impulsiveness.Be happy.


3: Communicate regularly: Do not talk his ear off, he doesn't need your opinion, if he did he would read a book or something he respects. However, make positive that if you have any difficulty that will have an effect on your mood, he is made aware of the reasons for your problems. so that you do not come into view to just be a indecisive and bad-tempered creature. But if you have big problems, keep it to yourself, because then it may look like you are talking his ear off.


4: Build your desires, needs, and opinions: Still when they might disagreement with his. If they do, build certain that you should desist from talking too a great deal concerning them. You decision and needs definitely help you.


5: Be reliable: Such as being truthful first, then being diplomatic next. Such as having the desire to converse issues first, then shutting the torture up. If you want to be reliable, make sure it's well-matched with his/her desires. If you are reliably annoying, they won't have none of that.


6: Be patient: Please don't mechanically think he did not hear you when you said something. May be he was worried with not listening to you. Don't jump to end and don't be bitchy about being ignored all the time. Remember, they may be trying to be reliable with their egocentricism.


7: Take an interest in his interests: Take an interest in his disinterests too. He may be disinterested in what you like, so at smallest amount try to understand why he is not interested respect it like the relationship saving, selfless person you are.
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How To Be The Good Boyfriend Ever!

 

With the rise of independent and strong-willed women, being the perfect boyfriend can be quite a challenge. If you can’t do it well, you’ll have a hard time coping up in your relationship or end up getting dump. Here are some top tips on how to be the perfect boyfriend.

(1) LISTEN and LISTEN well. Girls by nature love to talk a lot- they love to chatter about things that you hardly understand like shopping, shoes, make- up and feelings. It’s essential that you try to be interested and keep interested no matter how perplexed you are. Women find communication as one of the top priority in the relationship, that’s why it’s important to her that you respond. 

If you are dumbfounded on what to respond, here are some quick useful responses: “That sounds an interesting story” or “Really? I can’t believe it, can you tell me more details?” or you can use the fail-safe respond of all time “I’m sorry, I didn’t get that, I was so mesmerized by how beautiful you are when you speak.” But seriously, to be the perfect boyfriend you have to genuinely pay attention to her because most women know if you are pulling her foot.

(2) Love her family and friends. No matter how head over heels in love she is with you, you have to accept the fact that you are not the only person in her life. Her friends and family have a big influence. The worst thing that you can do is to have a conflict with them.

You have to remember their name- never say, “Who? That fat girl with the volcano face? I can hardly concentrate with what she’s saying with that zit on her nose.” If you create conflict with her girl friends, you will never be the perfect boyfriend; girl friends are hard enemies to have.

But on the other hand, if you are in good terms with her pals, you have an ally if ever things between you and her get wobbly. Therefore, the wisest thing that you can do is make her friends your friends. Value the people that she values, get involve and be the pro-active man in her life.

(3) Be there for her always- be that MAN that she can trust and depend on. In small and big things make yourself visible. Open the door for her, carry her bags, acknowledge her skills, congratulate her accomplishments, support her goals, and be her shoulder to lean on. (4) In sexual aspect, be considerate and respect her needs, if she is tired and not in the mood, don’t force her.

If she is in the mood “play” her well in bed. Ask what satisfies her and most importantly, don’t go off early than needed. (5) Intimacy matters, give her flowers, surprise her with a fancy dinner and if business is good, take a break off. (6) Be presentable. I don’t mean that you have an extreme make over but be respectful enough to be hygienic.

And lastly, be loyal to her. If you don’t intend to take her seriously, don’t waste your time. So, there you are, I hope how to be the perfect boyfriend is as easy as 123. Good luck!

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What is a Crush?

Most teenagers begin their romantic lives with a series of crushes. Crushes are sort of easy entry-ways into the world of strong emotions and relationships, without having much of the scary risk involved in really dating someone. People have crushes on their teachers, on actors, on band members, on scout leaders or pastors. Sometimes people have crushes on fellow students, but usually it's on a student that is several grades older.

A crush involves admiring someone from a safe distance. You feel a hugely powerful emotion, stronger than anything you've felt before. You obsess over this person. You would die for them. You think about them constantly. You are thrilled when you are near them and miserable when you are away from them. You desperately want to tell the person how you feel - but are frightened of it at the same time.

If you're involved in a crush - enjoy it! We have ALL had crushes over the years and they're something you look back on with great fondness. Look at what makes your crush special. Those qualities that you admire in your crush are qualities that are very special to you, and it's very important to learn what those are. It helps you when you look for a real boyfriend or girlfriend to date, to know what you are drawn to.

Also, learn how to handle your feelings. Most of what a crush is about is learning that you get POWERFUL emotions in relationships - and that you need to deal with them. Just like you learned in earlier years how to deal with strong anger and strong sadness, you're now learning how to deal with strong feelings of attraction. You're learning that it's a nice feeling - but that it's a painful feeling if you let it take over your life. You need to be able to balance those feelings with the rest of what is going on in your world.

As hard as it might seem right now, your feelings for your crush will even out over time. It usually takes a few weeks to a few months, but you will learn to bring them under control. And as you learn more about life, you will find someone that is your own age, and actually someone you can *date* to start to become interested in. When that's the case, you can work to be their friend, and then their best friend. And it's at that point that your interests change from a crush to a real, meaningful relationship.